Stop blaming her reactions

STOP BLAMING HER REACTIONS — START LOOKING AT YOUR ACTIONS

You keep saying she’s too emotional…

too sensitive…

too distant…

But have you ever stopped and asked why she’s reacting that way?

A woman doesn’t shut down for no reason.

She doesn’t cry for no reason.

She doesn’t go quiet, pull away, or “overreact” without cause.

Her reactions are not the problem.

They’re the symptoms.

They are her soul’s way of saying:

“I’m hurting, and I don’t feel safe to say it anymore.”

If she’s pulling away, it’s because she no longer feels heard.

If she’s raising her voice, it’s because she’s begged you in silence and nothing changed.

If she’s shutting down, it’s because every time she opened up, you dismissed her pain.

You call her toxic—

but maybe she’s just exhausted from trying to be everything while being treated like nothing.

You say she’s too much—

but maybe you gave her too little for too long.

Here’s the truth:

She’s not asking for perfection.

She’s asking for presence.

For respect.

To feel seen and valued, not just needed.

So before you judge her reactions—

Check your own actions.

Because real love is not about pointing fingers.

It’s about taking responsibility.

You don’t get to break her heart and then blame her for bleeding.